Take an average car. If a salesman calls the car a “cherry”, it means it’s in perfect condition. But if a salesman calls the same car a “lemon”, it means it has expensive mechanical problems. The name means everything to a buyer, true or not.
If you apply the same concept to your child, it will change the way you think about and treat him or her. You’ve been enduring disturbed or stressful behavior–this is glaringly obvious–but notice the “cherry” behaviors when you are getting relief from the “lemons.” What’s great about him or her? Even problematic behaviors are strengths in some … Continue reading