Take this parenting test if you have a troubled child

Take this parenting test if you have a troubled child

So how are you doing in this parenting job you have?  Score your parenting skills on a test designed for parents of children ages 11-15 with serious behavior problems.  (If you are brave, have someone else score you too and compare notes.)

Parenting Skills Test – printable form

Don’t be hard on yourself if you score low.  Only a saint could have an excellent score.

What did you learn?  Where are your lowest scores?  Troubled kids are extraordinarily difficult. You might be thinking:  “I agree these are good parenting skills, but practicing them is impossible with my child. They hate/defy/scream/fill-in-the-blank at me constantly.” Suggestion:  Work on one at a time, and take the test again in few weeks to see if you’ve improved your score. 

But I have second thoughts…

I know I would have had a low score and fallen in the “Keep trying” group.  This had to do with the fact that my child’s mental health so poor, and she was so at-risk, there were things I gave up on.

These 3 questions shouldn’t count for parents with mentally ill children

#5  “I let natural consequences do the teaching whenever feasible.”  In my case, natural consequences could always be serious.  This was a non-starter.
#6  “I am confident my child has everything she/he needs to make good decisions.”  No way.  They cannot make good decisions when they are irrational–that’s the problem.
#7  “I allow my child to do his/her chores without reminding.”  I gave up on chores.  It was one battle I didn’t have to fight.  It was much easier doing them myself and knowing they’d be done.

Please add a comment if you have found other skills to be effective,

 

–Margaret

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Parent to Parent Guidance

Parent to Parent Guidance

Margaret Puckette is a Certified Parent Support Provider, and assists parents on how to effectively raise their troubled child. She believes parents need realistic practical guidance for family life and school, not just information about disorders. Margaret has mentored families for over 20 years. She is an author & speaker, and knows from personal experience there is reason for hope.

You Can Handle This.

You Can Handle This.

You are not alone. It's no one's fault. Behavior disorders are disabilities! Troubled children need a very different parenting approach than 'normal' kids.

Care for yourself first, then set new goals:
1. Physical and emotional safety for all
2. Acceptance of the way things are
3. Family balance, meet the needs of all
4. One step at a time, one day at a time

Practical Guide for Parents

Practical Guide for Parents

A guide with practical steps for reducing stress at home and successfully raising a troubled child. You use the same proven techniques as mental health and other professionals. It starts by taking care of your wellbeing first, then taking an entirely different approach to parenting.
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