Your rights as the parent of a teen with a mental disorder7 votes
Parents have more rights than they think.
In a previous blog article on the subject of parents rights, I described how parents can be shocked to learn that their troubled teenager has the right to refuse treatment, Balancing teen rights with parent rights when the teen has a mental disorder.
What if your teen refuses treatment? They get worse. Over months and years, if your child experiences serious symptoms of the disorder, … Continue reading
Five-minute wisdom for parenting troubled children and teens6 votes
From many years of counseling parents, I’ve found the following parenting wisdom quickly helps parents understand, clarify priorities, and take the next steps.
You are not alone. All families experience the same fears no matter what the child’s challenges: guilt, anger, frustration, failure, and mental and physical exhaustion.
There is a way. The steps to finding peace in the home are the same for all families.
You can start now. You can improve behavior without having a diagnosis, and the techniques work for the majority of difficult children.
There is reason for HOPE. They have the capacity to do better. With support and … Continue reading
Bullying and how to stop it – for parents and teachers4 votes
Most of us have bullied someone and have been bullied at some time in our lives. We have an aggressive trait that helps us stand up to a threat. We are emboldened to fight when we fear for ourselves or family, or simply when we’re “not going to take this anymore!” Mature people don’t do this without cause, but children and teens lack maturity and can engage in bullying throughout their school years. (Even the nicest children can bully another person.) Victims of bullying usually don’t have the power and skills to prevent it or to protect themselves.
What to do when they stop listening4 votes
At some point in their development, all kids stop listening. It’s frustrating but normal. There are lots of good advice for getting normal children and teens to listen, or at least follow the rules and directions given by the parent.But it’s different when your child has serious behavioral disorder, and when their behaviors are extreme or outright risky. Your priority may be to prevent destructive behavior and family chaos when they hate you, blame you, or are willing to take extreme risks. Then who cares about the dishes or homework?
First things first, avoid upsetting yourself.
Avoid repeating things over … Continue reading
The 12 Commandments for Parents of Children with Behavioral Disorders3 votes
Parents! Want to know how to make it? These commandments were written for parents with children with serious (physical) disabilities, but they apply to you too.
Thou art thy child’s best and most consistent advocate.
Thou hast valuable information about your child. Professionals need your input.
Thou shalt put it in writing and keep a copy.
Thou shalt not hesitate to contact a higher authority if you can’t get the help you need. Continue reading